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Please believe exactly what your mother has shown so clearly about who she is, and what she will not do. Sad as it is, she’s not changing. Her patterns and choices are well established. It’s kind of you to want to help and want it to all be better, but unfortunately, it will not. Accept this for your own well being and don’t let the situation mess up your home and marriage. Find mom a low income apartment, in my area there are charities who operate these for her age group. Move her out of your home as soon as possible. Then you can choose how to best help. Maybe you can take her healthy foods and meals when it’s convenient for you. You can encourage her. She needs therapy to address her depression and lack of motivation, but that’s on her to attend. Know that you need to guard your marriage, health, and finances first before anything for mom. She’s blessed that you care
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MargaretMcKen Aug 13, 2024
My understanding is that most 'low income seniors apartments' have a waiting list of at least a couple of years. Forget about 'how best to help' HER. She is very good at 'helping herself' at your expense. She is not 'blessed', she is a user.
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