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I’ve read from reliable sources that since women outnumber men in retirement communities including facilities, that women clamor for male attention which results in an unusually high rate of vinereal disease. Is this true?

Not in my retirement community. I suspect that this is an urban legend promoted by retirement communities to get more women to move there! (However, plenty of women where I live are GLAD to be single. Due to past overwhelming caregiving chores of deceased husbands, they want no more to do with any of THAT!)
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BurntCaregiver Nov 30, 2024
I think so too, Fawnby. There are seniors who are in their right mind still who live in retirement communities and AL. They are not going to all of a sudden become sex addicts if they lives their whole lives not being that way. The AL I worked at, mostly the old guys hung out together separate from the old ladies.
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I doubt it, but the idea sounds like a great premise for a new series on Bravo: The Real Housewives of Sun City!
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WTFchoice Nov 30, 2024
Yo rather see The Real Housewives of East Harlem 55+ community.

Those grandpa's and grandma's are a special kind of fresh. Worked at a retirement community and it depends on area and demographic where I Worked it was pretty common.
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I haven't heard any such thing.
Research this on the greater internet, why don't you?
And DO let us know.
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Reporting for removal to Discussions or just removal.
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imeldapearce Nov 30, 2024
i don't want the topic censored. it is of great concern to the poster, and does it really do you any harm?
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I would say not. I was a supervisor at an AL and there really wasn't promiscuous behavior going on. There were some residents who were together, but not many. Also, the generation of the residents at the time has to be considered. Promiscuous behavior was not a thing with the 'Greatest Generation' or the one before and many of our residents were were young in those times.

Dementia changes everything though. If a resident had dementia and it was progressing to the point where their behaviors became a problem, they had to leave. We were not a memory care or a nursing home.

Though a high rate of sexual assault occurs in memory care facilities and nursing homes among residents. That is an administration and staff problem that they don't handle well.
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My daughter has worked NHs and ALs and says this kind of thing is rare. Not that it does not happen but not that much.
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Not true, based on my limited experience (at my mom’s ALF and at a friend’s ALF). I have seen only one instance where two started living together in the same apt and in that case she’s got very bad dementia and sometimes goes into the hallway and yells that he’s got another girlfriend in the apt and wants a staff member to get her out, lol! Otherwise, people are very respectful, even when a few do find a “special” friend of the opposite sex they really enjoy being with. The facilities do keep their eyes open in order to guard each resident’s safety and privacy and they remove anyone who can’t comply.
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evdoddzoe, I see from your other posting that you and hubby wish to downsize from a large home into a nice retirement community. There is a company called Erickson Senior Living and also Del Webb communities that have places on the east coast.


As for promiscuous behavior in such communities, you need to question the sources where said information is coming from. If it is on social media, forgetaboutit, not always reliable.
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evdoddzoe Dec 11, 2024
Thank you. Elaine
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There is a documented rise in STDs among older adults. Many elderly folks live in retirement communities, therefore this is not a myth or misinformation. Here is info from National Institute of Health about it: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7177870/
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If you are a man in a retirement and you can still drive, you are guaranteed to get a lot of female, and sometimes male attention. And your payment will be "under the table" so to speak. So yeah those old folks are getting it on in their senior years, and I can't say I blame them. Do some searching in Google Scholar for the free journal articles that document this.
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