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Who are you caring for?
Which best describes their mobility?
How well are they maintaining their hygiene?
How are they managing their medications?
Does their living environment pose any safety concerns?
Fall risks, spoiled food, or other threats to wellbeing
Are they experiencing any memory loss?
Which best describes your loved one's social life?
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I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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Your loved one may not require home care or assisted living services at this time. However, continue to monitor their condition for changes and consider occasional in-home care services for help as needed.
Remember, this assessment is not a substitute for professional advice.
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I remember one poster here who told her parent that the aide was a friend of a frien who needed work to support her children. Do you think a ruse like that might help, GC?
Is your wife very agitated by change in general? Is she on any meds to help with that?
Is the concept of "retirement" something your wife understands? When my husband objected to having a handyman come in for home maintenance tasks I always told him I was so grateful that he did those things himself for so many years, and did them very well, too. But now that he was retired he deserved to take it easy and let someone else do it.
When my mother, in a nursing home, would start fussing about checking the fridge and figuring out what to make for dinner, I would tell her, "Great news, Ma! You are retired now, and someone else figures out what to serve for dinner, cooks it, and does all the dishes afterward! You've earned your retirement. Enjoy it!"
"You are retired" seems much more acceptable than "You are incapable."
My aunt had absolutely no short term memory. Her daughter arranged for 3 shifts of women to stay with her. And at each changing of the shifts Auntie though the woman was just there for a visit. "Oh Mary! How nice of you to drop in. I just made some coffee and let's see if I have any cookies. Come and talk in the living room." If your wife's memory loss allows you to present the worker as a visitor, that might help. (It certainly wouldn't work in every situation.)
I just hired an Aide for my grand father with Mild Dementia, and I love all the answers above me. All of them are brilliant. Just figure out which one will work best for your Mom's personality.
For my grandfather, I just told him that the hospital wanted to send a Nurse to check his blood pressure for a few days. But before her 4th visit, he said he didnt wan't her to come by that day (he wasnt quite used to the idea of someone coming in his home so much), so I told him that she just wanted to visit him to say "hello" for a few minutes because she liked him so much. It worked.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Is your wife very agitated by change in general? Is she on any meds to help with that?
When my mother, in a nursing home, would start fussing about checking the fridge and figuring out what to make for dinner, I would tell her, "Great news, Ma! You are retired now, and someone else figures out what to serve for dinner, cooks it, and does all the dishes afterward! You've earned your retirement. Enjoy it!"
"You are retired" seems much more acceptable than "You are incapable."
My aunt had absolutely no short term memory. Her daughter arranged for 3 shifts of women to stay with her. And at each changing of the shifts Auntie though the woman was just there for a visit. "Oh Mary! How nice of you to drop in. I just made some coffee and let's see if I have any cookies. Come and talk in the living room." If your wife's memory loss allows you to present the worker as a visitor, that might help. (It certainly wouldn't work in every situation.)
For my grandfather, I just told him that the hospital wanted to send a Nurse to check his blood pressure for a few days. But before her 4th visit, he said he didnt wan't her to come by that day (he wasnt quite used to the idea of someone coming in his home so much), so I told him that she just wanted to visit him to say "hello" for a few minutes because she liked him so much. It worked.